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Do you feel like you’re doing too much of the housework? You’re not alone! Have you tried talking to you partner about it and it’s quickly turned into a fight? They say they do half, but you know that’s not true? These arguments turn emotional fast, but in this post…

Domestic violence is not a heart warming issue to read about. But this post attempts find some “good news” at a time when we could all use something to smile about. There has been a 25% increase in domestic violence related calls due to lockdowns for coronavirus. Refuge, the UK’s…

Mental Load is the work of having to constantly remember, organise, account for, plan and manage your life and the lives of others in your household. It’s sometimes referred to as being the CEO or Manager of the household. It frequently involves delegating tasks to others, or being asked “how…

We don’t often encounter a relationship lesson watching teen movies, and yet that’s what happened when I watched Netflix teen special ‘To all the boys I’ve loved before’. Sounds terrible, right? I thought so too, but read on for the pearl of wisdom it contains. No, seriously. But also, SPOILER…

The Standards Challenge (Part Three) Talking about standards for housework can be a significant source of conflict at home. But how do you talk about it without starting a fight? The first post in this three part series examines why standards might differ between household members. If you missed Part…

The Housework Standards Challenge (Part Two) It’s more common than you’d think for two people to fight about whether household tasks have been ‘done’. Or if everyone is doing their fair share of the work. Why is this? Often it’s because we have different understandings of the ‘Definition of done’…

The Challenge of Different Standards (Part One) Do you and your partner have different standards for housework, or different ideas of what a task being done properly means? This common problem is called the Standards Challenge. In this three part series we explore why it happens, and how to fix…

Welcome to the ThirdShift Blog! ThirdShift is creating a more equal world by changing the way busy parents work and stay connected. Originally founded to solve the problem of Mental Load – the mental work of managing and organising a household. This is work that’s disproportionately done by women, is…