Communication

Women doing too much housework

Are you doing too much of the housework, but your partner doesn’t agree? Here’s why.

Do you feel like you’re doing too much of the housework? You’re not alone! Have you tried talking to you partner about it and it’s quickly turned into a fight? They say they do half, but you know that’s not true? These arguments turn emotional fast, but in this post we explain why these fights happen, and how to change the conversation. Why does my partner think they’re doing half… Read More »Are you doing too much of the housework, but your partner doesn’t agree? Here’s why.

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A Surprising Relationship Lesson in Netflix’s ‘To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before’

We don’t often encounter a relationship lesson watching teen movies, and yet that’s what happened when I watched Netflix teen special ‘To all the boys I’ve loved before’. Sounds terrible, right? I thought so too, but read on for the pearl of wisdom it contains. No, seriously. But also, SPOILER ALERT. Don’t read on if you don’t want to know how it ends (hint: there’s no twist). I don’t know… Read More »A Surprising Relationship Lesson in Netflix’s ‘To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before’

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Agree A Housework ‘Definition of Done’ To Stop Fights

The Standards Challenge (Part Two) It’s more common than you’d think for two people to fight about whether household tasks have been ‘done’. Or if everyone is doing their fair share of the work. Why is this? Often it’s because we have different understandings of the ‘Definition of done’ for housework tasks. The first post in this three part series examines why standards might differ between household members. If you… Read More »Agree A Housework ‘Definition of Done’ To Stop Fights

Women juggling housework and childcare

Are They Just Trying To Get Out Of Doing Housework?

The Challenge of Different Standards (Part One) Do you and your partner have different standards for housework, or different ideas of what a task being done properly means? This common problem is called the Standards Challenge. In this three part series we explore why it happens, and how to fix it. This introductory post looks at why the standards challenge occurs and where your partner might be coming from. Part… Read More »Are They Just Trying To Get Out Of Doing Housework?